Yours Expectations, Someone’s Compromises

Life is a combo pack of Happy and sad moments. The ratio of these two may vary from 

person to person but they do form a  part of everyone’s life. When any of these moments come to your life, the reason is always different but one categorization is always universal- “Where the cause of happy moments is most of the time you, the cause of sad moments is someone else”. You derive happiness when you do something which pleases you, you achieve something which you aspire for or you get something which you want”. But the sole concentration point focuses at you . Sad moments enter your life when you don’t get the things done as per the way you want. Till the time key is in your hand , you can set everything as per your conventions but when someone else holds the key, you can’t get everything done as per your accordance. Hence, the root cause of sadness or disappointment is most of the times governed by the fact that key is held in someone else’s hand. But when do we start bothering that who holds the key?? There is one word which has the power to alter your life and happiness. The word is –EXPECTATIONS. The moment it knocks the door of your life, happy moments take their departure and sad moments mark their arrival. Expectations – kill everything may it be relations, feelings, confidence or even you. If we drill down the reasons of sadness in our life, we reach to the same cause- Expectations. Life starts deteriorating when We begin forcing our happiness on compromises of other people. When this goes on, persons starts feeling emotional fatigue- a strong emptiness.  Over time, we see people change, things change and then we  begin to panic-because people and things are not as how we are used to see them. Someone has rightly said –“Look at everyone as supposed to play a part in your life. When their role is over, they move on. Do not try to hold them back, for the moment you feel you don’t have them- They are already gone!! Some people believe that if we truly believe in any relation with full commitment and dedication, we ought to have expectations. If we kill expectations, feelings weaken! Well, that sounds true!! I myself thought the same in the past so I can’t blame anyone for their thought aligned in this line. But as experiences teach us a lot, they taught me to think different. And though it seems quite difficult and impossible to stop claiming expectations, its not so. Its very simple just a small change of mindset is required. Tame your mind, tap to tell it one simple thing-If my happiness resides on demanding something from a person which takes away the tiniest bit of his/her happiness, things are going wrong. Everyone whom you respect or value has the right to stay they way they want to, spend every moment of their life the way they wish to….There is no point to start charging for all you give…Look at everything just as it is-no preset requirements. Whatever later exceeds the preset limits, treat it as a bonus. There is one more way to deal with this-Do not be too greedy for your greed. Have the power to keep your happiness in your hands and not in the hands of people you value. If you start questioning their actions, all you get in return is a strained relationship.. Don’t ever forget the very basic fact that You can only control yourself and no one else in this world. So control your expectations and your reasons of happiness as well as sadness…..

                                         Kill your expectations before they kill you…

                                                        

DO WE REALLY NEED HELP??

 

Whenever a person gets an opportunity to prove himself or when he is exposed to a competitive environment, he leaves no stone unturned for the same. He tries his level best to prove that there is no challenge in the world that he can't win over or there is nothing which he can't achieve on the basis of his skills, efforts, dedication and hardwork. Even if he gets something to do which he has never tried off before, he would happily accept the same and give his best stroke. And this fact is true as well that if a person decides to do something sincerely and honestly , he can surely do that. But then why every now and then we ask for help from someone or the other. Why are we not able to take every situation or work we get in our day to day life as a new challenge and give our best. It means whenever we ask for help, it shows that we are not willing to try or we are not capable of doing that task on our known. Is it so?? This question is not so simple to be answered as different scenarios give us distinct conclusions. Completing practical files and projects  in your school must be a rememberable memory for all of us. For some, it must be a cumbersome task and for others it must be an innovative and creative task to be completed. Few students used to work with utmost dedication whereas others used to just be a part of others work and have the taste of pulao  already cooked by someone. If I ask you that the persons who never devoted much efforts or dedication to these files and projects, didn't they succeed in their lives or didn't they achieve good position and reputation? The answer will surely force us to think that its not so. We may encounter several examples where even those persons have achieved their dreams and ambitions . Then how come those persons  needed others help in completing so simple tasks. Were they not talented at that time or it was a magic that they were gifted with magical powers in later stages of their life?? Its not true my friends. Our actions simply depend on our attitude. Those who are highly serious in their life, they take even work or task to be accomplished very sincerely. Cool persons don't pay much heed to everything. Most of the times its our laziness and casual attitude that we don't prefer to do everything on our own when we are having an option of getting something ready made already prepared by someone else. Some persons have a common trait they they are much more inclined towards  getting work done by others. They are much more interested in enjoying the fruits but not sowing the seeds. Help may also be asked when we  genuinely need some guidance or want some better ideas to help us out in proceeding forward. There is one more aspect where we ask help from our friend, siblings or close ones. This doesn't mean that we are dependent on them or we not capable. There exists a  deep feeling of affection , support and togetherness  hidden this request of seeking help. When we organize any program or arrange something, we explicitly seek help from our close ones. There is a great pleasure when we complete something together. People are really fortunate who have such dear ones in their life who  seek their help or make it a point to involve us in some worthy tasks of their life. This fact can't be denied that these small gestures make the relations and bonds vey strong and special as well. So Seeking help doesn't always judge your capabilities and skills. The word "help" carries a great weightage in it which has the value can't be universally assigned. Person should seek help but it should be genuine. We must never aim at taking advantage of others....

 

Grow and help others also to  grow in their life.......

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                         

Is it really difficult to learn and change??

 

" Humans learn from experiences" . Its a common proverb which most of us have heard somewhere or the other. But is it really easy to learn from our experiences. If we glance upon the past incidents of our life , we would surely come out with several examples and cases where we faced something multiple times but still we couldn't learn from the same or failed to incorporate the change which was required to avoid the reoccurrence of that negative experience. Why is it so?? When we come across any negative or undesirable experience, we devote a considerable amount of time on it by analyzing the situation and consoling ourselves that its ok.... Its the first time that I am experiencing this situation and now I will learn from it so that I don't repeat the same mistake or I  don't get myself stuck into  the same unfavourable situation. But after some gap of time when we are disappointed or fall badly in our life and analyse the reason for the same, we find that we had experienced it earlier also but we didn't learn from it and that's the sole reason for our falling so badly this time. We again tell ourselves that I have learnt from it and give an assurance to ourselves that I  won't be in this sort of situation in future as I have learnt that where I was wrong and what I need to change in myself for a better personality and life. But I am sorry to say that there are good amount of chances that this self assurance comes out to be an illusionary understanding which  we were assuming to have  gained . On focusing upon this topic a bit more, I realize that its not applicable on every human being. Few persons are so cautious that once they experience something drastic, they learn from it very sincerely and make sure that they never commit the same mistake again. This arouses more interest to realize the reason that  why its not possible for everyone to make such wise decisions?? The answer depend to a large extent on the inherent qualities and characteristics of any person.  Humans  have a great tendency to take a chance. When we encounter the situation already faced in the past, we think that its not always necessary that we get similar conclusions and negative experience . With this mindset we proceed ahead thinking that may be this time we get better output or result. We befool ourself by self consoling that the situation is different and not the same. Even if we succeed in coming out with a  single difference in circumstances, we don't reconsider our next step or move and put ourself in a new problem or disappointment. Some people are very open to everything which comes to their life. If a person comes to them asking forgiveness and assuring that he has changed and won't repeat the same things again, these open personality persons believe in giving them a second opportunity as well with a hope that this time they won't be disappointed. It may be possible as well that the other person has really improved but incase we again fall badly due to our decision, Others say  that it was our mistake that we didn't learn from our experience. Some persons are very rigid about their decisions. Once they experience something negative due to some person, They completely shut the doors of their life for those persons. Even if the person has changed, they are not at all interested in doing experiment or taking a chance again. When they find themselves into the same negative situation, they are preplanned about their moves. Even if the situation is a bit different , they hardly consider it and are really very firm over their decision of not getting stuck into it again. Hence, it really depends to a large extent on our inherent personality. The extent to which we are easily fascinated by the external factors , persons and promises also decides that how nicely we are able to learn from our experiences.  The decision and opinion varies from person to person but our decisions should be analytical and not simply influenced by fascinations and other's power of influence. A person should have the scope of incorporation and taking chances in life but that should be backed by  an appropriate reason and analysis. We should be totally in our senses as well as confident on what we are opting to do next moment.  Be open but equally cautious and life would  really be a treat for you.

Be what you are But do remember that scope of improvement and betterment lies within everyone....

Learn as you grow

And reap what you sow

Not what someone else has sown.....

 

                       Does the essence of love changes with time??

Most of the words have a fixed and deterministic meaning but the meaning of "love" changes with time and its interpretation varies for persons of different age. Infact for most of the people, as they move through their life they hold different views about it. Let's begin from the early stage.  Ask a small child that what love means to him. He would be of the perception that my father brings chocolate for me,  my mother prepares my favourite dishes,my siblings help me out in my projects and save me from mum's scolding. These acts and favours is love. When he steps into school, he gets a friend circle and then a new meaning of love adds to his life- the support of friends and their helpfulness. As he becomes a teenager and plans of life settlement begin, he feels that love is the ultimate support of a person who is ready to support you  in every phase of life and stands beside you, no matter what the situation is or circumstances are. When the person goes through the phase of old age, a new meaning of love arouses- the concern, care and affection of children towards their parents.  Infact,  it would be more prominent to say that In every phase of life, one particular meaning of love becomes more dominant than others. But is the priority same for Everyone?? No, not at all.  If we go a bit deep, we realise that  there is a need of addition of new meaning of love to our life as we proceed in our life span. To make myself clear, i would say that when a child is small, he do needs the love of his parents and siblings so that he can develop a strong bond with them and consider them as their friends with whom he can feel comfortable to share anything throughout their life. The childhood is the best time to develop that tuning and hence this meaning of love should be realised by every kid. When he grows up, his parents can't help him in every case and hence the meaning of friend's love should be realized.  When a person has to settle in his life, he must get the love of someone who can be with him throughout his life as a perfect companion because that's very essential for his future life to be stable and peaceful. When he is at the verge of last stage, he must get the love of his children and must be fortunate enough to get a glimpse of this meaning of love. But the addition of new meaning should never ever lessen the importance of earlier meanings  which you have learnt before. Don't try to rate or prioritise the meanings.  Each has  its own spark. As you move up in the classes with your age, you don't forget the important concepts and basics learnt in each class because you never know that the teachings of which class help you at which point of time. Similarly,  you never know that which meaning again empowers your life at any instant. Specially, when we lose one specific meaning of love, other meanings get the responsibility to hold you and guide you.....

                    Let the essence of every meaning of love 

                     bless your life with happiness and peace......

 

                      What actually drives you back or forward??

Most of  the persons  would agree with me on the point that though we move ahead in our life as per the clock and years but still a greater proportion of our thoughts are occupied by reminisces of past or illusions of future but  not the analysis or solution of present. In short, inspite of living physically in present we usually survive mentally in past or Future. I will not be wrong in proclaiming that most of the time we think about what we could have done in past to avoid the circumstances or unfavourable conditions which had occured. We keep on thinking about the mistakes committed by us in the past and what forced us to act in that way. When we are depressed or obstructed by some problem, we cry spiritually remembering the happening and jolly days of past instead of focussing upon searching  the most  optimum solution or way which can lead us out of the problem. When we are free , we dream about how our future would be or can say the fantasies of unpredictable future.But why its so?? It has been proved that mind has a vibrant activity. But there is one more  fact that a person can master his mind completely. It means person himself wants to live either in past or future and not the present? But it seems to be quite illogical and vague as well. If you realise, its a cycle. You made mistakes in the past because at that time you were thinking about the superpast or living on  the traces of it instead of handling the present situation with full devotion and attention. Now you are repeating the same in present and hence your future will also be on the same track. Learning from your experiences and mistakes of past and utilising them for betterment of future and present is not at all a thing to be regretted for but basing your life entirely on the traces of it is not good. And having dreams and plans of future  is nice but constantly residing in that illusionary world will take you nowhere. Because your future actually depends on what you do in present.  Humans have a tendency to self console them or diverting mind from what they don't want to face. They derive pleasure in thinking that wow, in future i will  have this and that and it would be so delightening. But the fact  is your illusionary future can't solve your present problem which actually will decide your realistic future. Treat every moment of your life as a plate of food which has multiple flavours and tastes. When you are having a meal of your day , you don't think about what you ate  yesterday or what you will eat Tomorrow. You just focus on what is presented to you at the moment.  So, every instance of every life is just a plate offered to you by god. Taste very flavour-some you may like and some you may not but digest or accept everything.  It will actually prepare you for your future....

          Don't let your past become your present and your present a past....

           Enrich yourself with every small moment of your life....

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               GOVERNING FACTORS OF YOUR  BEHAVIOUR

The behavioural traits of any individual primarily have two components- genetic and non- genetic ( external).Genetic component refers to the impact of genes which you have inherited from your parents. An example to  quote is the  temperament of a person . It is directly impacted by the genetic factor and somewhere or the other resembles to that of any of the parent. Now , one could conclude that the temperament of two twins must be exactly same . But its not the case because incase of twins also , the percentage of genes inherited from each parent may vary and consequently the overall effect will also vary. You characterise any  person as reserved or social. It is also the consequence of genetic traits.External factors mainly decide the path you wish to opt in your life, your lifestyle etc. Its a very obvious fact that person learns and is mostly affected by what he sees around, listens around and the ongoing trends of his time. As a child grows, his circle goes beyond the family and home. The moment he starts learning about the actual conditions of his time, the instant he starts interacting with other individuals of that time and age, his thinking and the way of looking at life starts getting moulded in some way or the other. Several other factors decide the degree of diversion of your thoughts such as level of comparison you have opted in your life, your level of satisfaction , your company etc. Sometimes these external factors even have the power to overshadow the impact of genes gifted to you. We all would surely agree that we can't everytime blame the parents if their child is engaged in any wrong activity.  Its not so that parents of a robber have taught him or asked him to move upon that path.Then why?? Sometimes even parents feel helpless about the condition and they curse themselves for poor upbringing of their child.  But its not the case.  Its not their fault. Its just the case the child was not able to sustain or being affirm on his values and was easily swiped away by the materialism of external world.Parents might feel that they are able to give a nice life to their child though not being able to afford a lavish bungalow or a big car. But they are not aware about how their child is looking at the outside world. It may be possible that level of satisfaction of parents and child varies. When a person looks at other persons of his age , he might develop a complex that he lags behind. When it is impossible for him to control his attractions towards materialistic world, dark time begins. He starts searching for some easy way to acquire what all he doesn't possess. And most of the times, this easy way leads you towards hellish conditions. But  the main point to be noted here is - genetic traits may be suppressed but never diminished.The moment anyone succeeds to remove this rusty layer formed due to external conditions and situations , you will be able to see yourself in true sense and what you should be.One may wrongly conclude that external traits are stronger than genetic ones. Let's look at the other side as well. We have few examples before us where persons have gone  against the ill qualities which they have got in their genes. The sole reason for this is being able to get a company helping them out to realise the difference between right and wrong. They succeed in recognising that what they are being taught is not always right. This side is referring to those cases where parents have been deflected towards the wrong path but their child is able to protect himself from the same hell and is able to do something better in his life. So , both genetic as well environmental factors have their pros and cons. It totally depends upon what percentage you have adopted from each category.You don't have any control over the genetic factor because that you naturally inherit. Focus on the external surroundings you are exposed to. You may control them partially though not   completely.  Be in a good company and regularly introspect yourselves.  I can't assure but can console that it will help out in some way or the other............

  May everyone be blessed with a  well dignified and   meaningful life.....

         

 

                                           

                                

                          CAN YOU BE EASILY GALVANISED......

Accepting a challenge and then winning over it sounds so cool and interesting. Youth of this era is highly conscious about proving themselves and at no cost want to hear a single gossip against them. Being in the limelight and always surrounded by a lot of appraisals is  one of their prime goals. One would surely say that its a very positive spirit as it instills the feeling of confidence and competitiveness among the group. This trait pushes them to always lead the crowd  by turning out themselves in every possible way. Challenges help out the individuals to know themselves better in terms of their capabilities , strengths and weakness. The journey of winning a challenge clearly reflects the zeal of individuals to be at the top. Life itself is the biggest  challenge and hence winning over such small ones,thrown at you ,adds to your ability to overcome this bigger one. But the situation is not  the same always. Flipping the pages of newspaper we come across several cases where individuals put their life at stake or turn around some wrong path  just to prove out themselves or winning over some challenge. But does their sacrifice really worthy or logistic? No, absolutely not. The irony of the fact is - Even the person taking  the wrong step  will himself  be able to judge that he was wrong if he could have been lucky enough to get a second chance of interpolation. Then what forces them to take such  a wrong step?? The answer relies upon the very basic tendency of human beings i.e- to keep their ego and image on a very high pedestal.Its very easy to provoke any person in the shade of capability and ability. "Can you do this?? No, you can't. You don't have the guts to do so."These few sentences are strong enough to excite a person to do something against their personality, ethics or morals. And why?? Because no one can ever consider themselves lower in the eyes of others. Everyone truly believes that there is nothing in the world which he is not capable of winning over. But in this force of excitement he forgets that life is not about proving others but proving yourself. If you are fully aware of your abilities , there is no need to prove them or make the whole world realise that yes, you can. Your thinking power as well as judgement power should never be overshadowed by the ill words or comments spoken by some other person. Because the world gains pleasure in seeing the acts. They are least bothered about the consequences of act. Life is yours and hence you have to be its guard. You have several responsibilities on your shoulder like your parents and your true well wishers. Before taking any such step, just think about them and just realise what impact your act is going to have on them. Ask yourself that  will you be able to say your decision proudly to them as well as yourself in future?? If your answer is truly yes. Proceed ahead.Never ever forget the basic learnings given to you by your parents and everyone who played an important role in the journey of your progress and success. If you are able  to sustain these learnings, no person in this world can dare to push you against what you are......

Good Luck and  always do  what is right for you.......

 

                                          TRACING THE GRAPH PATTERN OF  RELATIONS

 

 

R - Responsible

E - Elegant

L - Lovable

A - Affectionate

T - truthful

I - idealistic

O - outlook

N - needed

As relations have already been compared to the trees and plants beautifying your garden , their life cycle also resembles the same to a large extent.  The beauty of every flower doesn't remain the same forever. As the season changes either it droops down or some of the petals shed away. Similarly,  relations also depict several changes throughout their journey.  Most of us have complaints that few people who used to be very close to us are now not that close or in simple terms their relation with friends or even few relatives doesn't remain same throughout the life. They feel that the bond weakens or relations lose their value with time. Is it really so?? The very basic statement which can draw up your mind towards the answer is -" time has the power to change everything and anything". Nothing in the life is permanent and stagnant. You  yourself are not permanent then how can you expect anything else to be. Going by my expansion, the factors I have illustrated over there are the base of any relation. And these only are possible for bringing out some change felt in them with moving time. There could be several reasons for any relation to lose its shine. With every passing birthday of yours, the weight of responsibilities on your shoulder increases and you have to look over multiple relations where you used to look after only one or two. When people start believing that their responsibility is now much more directed towards the newly  gifted relations and not the old ones, their previous relations start shedding away their petals of spark one by one. Love and affection usually decrease only if some severe case of betrayal or conflict has taken place in any relation. Dishonesty is one of the main factors which can spoil the beauty of any bond. When we are assigned  a  new responsibility , we give our best to it , sometimes even more than what  is actually required but gradually that passion and interest fades away and we feel like having some change. Similarly , it has been observed that initially when a person is blessed with a particular relation , he gives out his best to it.He wants that he must set an example like best friendship etc . But as time passes, his thought of having everything in an idealistic manner starts losing its roots and he starts growing casual. This makes the other person feel that their relation is getting weak. Banyan tree has very strong roots. It lasts for years but with time , as its number of branches increase,  it weighs  down and doesn't look that impressive.  Similarly,  people get engaged in so many tasks as they proceed in the journey of life that everyone related to them in the earlier phases begin to realise that they are losing the rope of attachment and closeness. But this is a natural phenomenon. If the roots of your relation are strong, you will be able to satisfy each of them though with a bit difficulty. Life management is the most difficult task and so is the case here.Humans never accept changes so easily. They have a constant fear of losing and are a master of detecting even small changes. Therefore,  they find it bit difficult to accept the reality and changes experienced in the course of any relation. This becomes the main cause of their complaint.  But , this is a fact of life and can't be denied. So, nourish all your relations with utmost care and love so that their roots become capable of withstanding even strong storms.

      Time will fly away

Relations will shine

On the way

Greet them

With a beautiful smile

No matter how long

They shall blossom your days.....

 

 

IS POVERTY REALLY A STATE OF MIND......

Countries are classified as rich or poor depending upon the policy stated by UNO. These policies take whole country as an entity ad then put the tag of poverty or richness.Walking down to the individual level, every person categorises himself as rich or poor.Even in a country like America, its not so that every citizen of that sate believes that he is rich and on the other part, every person of Afghanistan doesn't consider himself to be poor.So, what's the scale of judgement being used by individuals to put themselves in a particular category? ? Talking in a broader sense, poverty is a relative parameter and not an absolute one.It totally depends upon the level of satisfaction you wish to attain in your life.In today's materialistic world, its very difficult to keep yourself away from the zeal of having more and more luxuries or accessories. And on the top of it, the thought of having a high profile reputation and image in the society adds five star to this process of acquiring more and more. An employee owning a scooter and 2 BHK flat could be much more satisfied as compared to the CEO of the same company possessing a series of cars and bungalows.A child may be satisfied with a single piece of toy or may not be satisfied even with a full room packed with the same. This  is a fact of life that everyone is not born to be a Birla or Ambani.But each and every person is born to lead a lifr of happiness and peace.If a person learns to be happy and contented with little then there is no factor or parameter in the world which can categorise him as poor.Self contention doesn't meannot trying to have more. It simply means being thankfulfor having what he has and making an effort or wish to achieve more or gain more . But in this process,  one must not leave the spirit and happiness to enjoy the Life . A child though not having much toys to play or a car to drop him to school,  which his friends might be having , should aspire to get that car in future by his hardwork .But at no cost he must bring a thought in his mind that he is poor or lags behind others."Sky is the limit for everyone" and the starting point of this journey varies from person to person. Some have to run longer but  some have to run short but everyone is equal in the eyes of lord. You are poor only if you consider yourself to be poor. Be you the only competitor of yours and always try to be one step ahead  from where you were and believe me you will never be dissatisfied or unhappy with your life.

P- person's

O- observance

O- of

R-  richness

What richness means to you??

Is it the number of cars and houses or something else? ?

Your judgement of poverty depends on how you see the richness and what matters to you in the life....

So , open your eyes , correct your vision and lead the life......

 

 

 

Whirling around the power of genes......

 

Observing people and analysing their traits has always been an area of interest for most of us. And in this sequence the common question which everyone faces at some point or the other is- What makes the girls and boys react so differently to various situations and phases? The common difference which noone can deny is the  huge variation in their list of priorities and likings. No matter in  which  part of the world you are both boys and girls are characterised by or embarked by a set of common features. Girls are usually tagged with the tinxture of jealousy, Attention seeking , gossiping etc. Boys are seen as creatures with carefree attitude, easy handling and cool life. Relying upon what looks outside or what is usually shown to us we may conclude that girls usually take life more seriously than boys. They have a habit of giving a second thought to each and every thing especially when it is related to an opinion about their personality. In short i can say that their consciousness factor or the image development factor is very powerful. They are highly concerned that what opinion people pursue about them and their every move or action is guided by the analysis of effect it is going to make on the  other person's mind. They are very much concerned about their image , reputation and try every possible means to be in the limelight of everyone. Its very commonly seen that the prime focus of girls is only themselves. And they carry a strong passion to have everything they wish for. This obstinacy factor pushes them towards inculcating feeling of jealousy . For them its first me then others. When they are not able to match the importance or reach the place they are aspiring for they try to adopt a strategy known as false self consolation. They start searching for faults in the actions and mitigations in the personality of others which leads to the stage of criticism. Gossiping is just a prime stage of criticism where girls really feel blessed and satisfied that they have several others to accompany them and support them regarding opinion about others. This gives them a feeling of confidence that yes, i am right and they go on proceeding towards this path. Several losers can make a strong team to criticise the winner and the same is proved in this case. The central theme of any gossiping group is comparision which may be regarding studies, luxuries, personality etc. All these activities clearly give one more indication that they have a high level of insecurity factor. They always  carry a fear of losing something or someone and this only makes their emotional quotient high. Their feelings of attachment and bonding  is very powerful which is a resulting consequence of the high value of emotional factor. And this quality helps them in being best friends...Coming onto the counterparts , boys lead a very divergent and exploring life. Because of this divergence they have lots and lots to discuss when in group instead of simply criticising others. No doubt they also compare themselves with others but their trait of not overemphasing on anything prevents them from falling into the same gossip sequence as girls. Boys are very open about accepting anything and this is a great factor which helps them out to have a good size friendcircle. They are emotional but not too much expressive as girls.They accept changes very easily and its very easy for them to flow with the time. The coolness factor of their attitude is really appreciable and hence they do what they want to without prejudging that what effect it is going to have on their reputation and image. This is the sole reason that we see a good example of unity in boys when  there is a need because the decision  relies on their choice that whether they want to do it or not. Whereas in case of girls their primary question is what others will think and not what they really wish for. Therefore its quite difficult to stand a group of girls in unity. Boys have less stability factor . They give their best to something as long as they are interested in it. They are the wholesome king of themselves. A good amount of stability is demonstrated by girls who have the power to take so many opinions into consideration before coming to a decision and sticking to their tasks once they have taken the responsibility.Now the question arises that though both the groups are creations of almighty . Then why this huge difference? Is it really the impact of genes which can't be overcome by anyone or something else... talking scientifically and taking the base of our observations we can't deny that yes the difference in genes of the two groups really plays an important role in the behaviour or traits of the two groups . But God has blessed every group with a package. Now what percentage of each  quality or characteristic you embed in your character is entirely an decision of yours. This decision is guided by your upbringing, the environment , experiences etc. God gave you one powerful computing device- your brain which you can use to decide what you want to?? Noone is gifted with negativity but if you use some positivity in excess , it may turn into negativity. For an example to quote, girls are truly blessed with a strong dedication, commitment power but if you are over dedicated to something and due to some reason you don't succeed then you may also move upon the path of developing jealousy. Likewise in boys, they give 100 percent to their friends and sometimes over trust them. But a single incidence of betrayal may lead them to false direction which may have drastic consequences.

 

There is a rule of life that everything has to be in proportion. In a drawing competition everyone is provided with same  set of colours and sheet but the art which comes out varies from person to person because there is a difference in the choices that what proportion of which colour they want to include in their drawing. Similarly in a cooking competition everyone  may be provided with the same ingredients but the dishes vary because of the choices and the selection.

 

In life , you have to cook yourself or create yourself. Ingredients are provided by God and recipe has to be of yours. The percentage of various qualities/ingredients who incorporate within you decides the  flavour/ quality of yours......

This is the only reason that neither every girl is same nor every boy is same..

 So you are the chef provided with a variety of ingredients. Just cook yourself in a way that its   fragrance  and flavour  spreads happiness in  the life of everyone around you...

Good luck!!