Yours Expectations, Someone’s Compromises

Life is a combo pack of Happy and sad moments. The ratio of these two may vary from 

person to person but they do form a  part of everyone’s life. When any of these moments come to your life, the reason is always different but one categorization is always universal- “Where the cause of happy moments is most of the time you, the cause of sad moments is someone else”. You derive happiness when you do something which pleases you, you achieve something which you aspire for or you get something which you want”. But the sole concentration point focuses at you . Sad moments enter your life when you don’t get the things done as per the way you want. Till the time key is in your hand , you can set everything as per your conventions but when someone else holds the key, you can’t get everything done as per your accordance. Hence, the root cause of sadness or disappointment is most of the times governed by the fact that key is held in someone else’s hand. But when do we start bothering that who holds the key?? There is one word which has the power to alter your life and happiness. The word is –EXPECTATIONS. The moment it knocks the door of your life, happy moments take their departure and sad moments mark their arrival. Expectations – kill everything may it be relations, feelings, confidence or even you. If we drill down the reasons of sadness in our life, we reach to the same cause- Expectations. Life starts deteriorating when We begin forcing our happiness on compromises of other people. When this goes on, persons starts feeling emotional fatigue- a strong emptiness.  Over time, we see people change, things change and then we  begin to panic-because people and things are not as how we are used to see them. Someone has rightly said –“Look at everyone as supposed to play a part in your life. When their role is over, they move on. Do not try to hold them back, for the moment you feel you don’t have them- They are already gone!! Some people believe that if we truly believe in any relation with full commitment and dedication, we ought to have expectations. If we kill expectations, feelings weaken! Well, that sounds true!! I myself thought the same in the past so I can’t blame anyone for their thought aligned in this line. But as experiences teach us a lot, they taught me to think different. And though it seems quite difficult and impossible to stop claiming expectations, its not so. Its very simple just a small change of mindset is required. Tame your mind, tap to tell it one simple thing-If my happiness resides on demanding something from a person which takes away the tiniest bit of his/her happiness, things are going wrong. Everyone whom you respect or value has the right to stay they way they want to, spend every moment of their life the way they wish to….There is no point to start charging for all you give…Look at everything just as it is-no preset requirements. Whatever later exceeds the preset limits, treat it as a bonus. There is one more way to deal with this-Do not be too greedy for your greed. Have the power to keep your happiness in your hands and not in the hands of people you value. If you start questioning their actions, all you get in return is a strained relationship.. Don’t ever forget the very basic fact that You can only control yourself and no one else in this world. So control your expectations and your reasons of happiness as well as sadness…..

                                         Kill your expectations before they kill you…