Is it really difficult to learn and change??

 

" Humans learn from experiences" . Its a common proverb which most of us have heard somewhere or the other. But is it really easy to learn from our experiences. If we glance upon the past incidents of our life , we would surely come out with several examples and cases where we faced something multiple times but still we couldn't learn from the same or failed to incorporate the change which was required to avoid the reoccurrence of that negative experience. Why is it so?? When we come across any negative or undesirable experience, we devote a considerable amount of time on it by analyzing the situation and consoling ourselves that its ok.... Its the first time that I am experiencing this situation and now I will learn from it so that I don't repeat the same mistake or I  don't get myself stuck into  the same unfavourable situation. But after some gap of time when we are disappointed or fall badly in our life and analyse the reason for the same, we find that we had experienced it earlier also but we didn't learn from it and that's the sole reason for our falling so badly this time. We again tell ourselves that I have learnt from it and give an assurance to ourselves that I  won't be in this sort of situation in future as I have learnt that where I was wrong and what I need to change in myself for a better personality and life. But I am sorry to say that there are good amount of chances that this self assurance comes out to be an illusionary understanding which  we were assuming to have  gained . On focusing upon this topic a bit more, I realize that its not applicable on every human being. Few persons are so cautious that once they experience something drastic, they learn from it very sincerely and make sure that they never commit the same mistake again. This arouses more interest to realize the reason that  why its not possible for everyone to make such wise decisions?? The answer depend to a large extent on the inherent qualities and characteristics of any person.  Humans  have a great tendency to take a chance. When we encounter the situation already faced in the past, we think that its not always necessary that we get similar conclusions and negative experience . With this mindset we proceed ahead thinking that may be this time we get better output or result. We befool ourself by self consoling that the situation is different and not the same. Even if we succeed in coming out with a  single difference in circumstances, we don't reconsider our next step or move and put ourself in a new problem or disappointment. Some people are very open to everything which comes to their life. If a person comes to them asking forgiveness and assuring that he has changed and won't repeat the same things again, these open personality persons believe in giving them a second opportunity as well with a hope that this time they won't be disappointed. It may be possible as well that the other person has really improved but incase we again fall badly due to our decision, Others say  that it was our mistake that we didn't learn from our experience. Some persons are very rigid about their decisions. Once they experience something negative due to some person, They completely shut the doors of their life for those persons. Even if the person has changed, they are not at all interested in doing experiment or taking a chance again. When they find themselves into the same negative situation, they are preplanned about their moves. Even if the situation is a bit different , they hardly consider it and are really very firm over their decision of not getting stuck into it again. Hence, it really depends to a large extent on our inherent personality. The extent to which we are easily fascinated by the external factors , persons and promises also decides that how nicely we are able to learn from our experiences.  The decision and opinion varies from person to person but our decisions should be analytical and not simply influenced by fascinations and other's power of influence. A person should have the scope of incorporation and taking chances in life but that should be backed by  an appropriate reason and analysis. We should be totally in our senses as well as confident on what we are opting to do next moment.  Be open but equally cautious and life would  really be a treat for you.

Be what you are But do remember that scope of improvement and betterment lies within everyone....

Learn as you grow

And reap what you sow

Not what someone else has sown.....